Tuesday, October 9, 2012
coffee talk ~ (not) an introvert
i've always hated labels. and it annoys me when someone calls me an...
this summer, there were a few instances where people called me introverted, and it bugged me. i don't know why.
okay... sure, i like to spend more time lounging with my kitties than i care to admit online. and yeah, sometimes i'd rather stay home and watch portlandia reruns, than go out to bars and 'network' with people who are really just faking a connection in order to get something out of you.
but when i'm around those who i feel comfortable with, i'm cheerful and outgoing. and i like it that way.
i have an uncle who is always the life of the party when he's around family, and out at gigs (he's also a musician), he's the funniest, most charming guy you'll ever meet. but he's a very private person, and when he needs his space... he needs his space! this is much like me.
also- i think there are certain types of people and situations that can drain you much faster than others. i just can't jive with those who want to have one-sided conversations, and constantly keep bringing things back to themself.
maybe i already know that person will never even hear a word i have to say. maybe i don't want to scream over a table full of already screaming people (it's bad for your voice!) in either case, i'm not going to waste my energy on trying to be heard, when that is very unlikely. if that makes me an introvert, so be it.
i guess when it comes down to it, i just feel that people aren't one-dimensional... at all. they are never one thing or the other. even the most extreme "extrovert" camp counselor this summer was rarely seen out at social events, and reportedly slept for three days straight when she came back. it can be very tiring to be constantly outgoing.
i just choose to ration my efforts.
anyone else out there feel especially introverted or extroverted? somewhere in between, like me? xx
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