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self check-in days

kave cafe brooklyn
kave cafe, brooklyn

i don't know what it is about coffee and cafes... but ever since i was a tween, they've seemed like an oasis in the desert of life. a place you can go to be yourself and meditate on important things. i got my first few glimpses of real independence in local coffee shops.

my first experience was at a little place in my hometown called "coffee, tea, and thee." i'd passed by it a thousand times, and it always intrigued me. the barista/ owner was a nice mom-type. and in a town where i always felt like a wierdo, i felt perfectly welcome there. that day, i realized that i wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life lounging at that counter, reading magazines, and writing in my journal. centering myself.

a few years later, woody's cafe opened downtown... i was now old enough to walk around town by myself. this is the place that caused me to realize the delicious reality of hazelnut iced coffee.

i still go out to cafes whenever i can- nearly daily. when i bring my laptop (most of the time), i'm working. but sometimes all i need is a journal, a book, maybe my to-do list. i like to solidify plans for the future, and get excited about ideas again. or just write about my girl-emotions, and doodle the name of my crush all over my notebook.

i need these days. they keep my emotions in check, and keep me excited about the future, rather than fearful of it.

in what ways do you take care of yourself? what are some important rituals for you?


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  1. Yes! Writing things down is such a good way to turn feelings and memories into something more concrete. It helps me with my own memory and to explore what I'm feeling in my own head but outside of my inner monologue. It's so easy to just think something that takes you one second to think but it takes like three minutes to explain to another person. Taking the time to go through those thoughts really helps. PS - "Escape" was on my birthday playlist yesterday. <3

  2. daily check-ins are so important! so glad that you take the time to do it!

  3. I used to love going to a cafe to do some work on a writing project, or to just sit and read the newspaper while I drank my coffee. It's such a nice time out!

    The other day, B. and I had a coffee & cake date before we went grocery shopping. It was so fun that we decided to try and make it a regular thing from now on~

  4. I love a cafe where you can just sit down and relax with a warm beverage, and it makes you feel like you're in your own living room. The first place I ever went to was called "Sip n' Chat"...brings back good memories of high school. Thanks for that :)

  5. It's so important to get that self check-in time. I enjoy hitting up a cafe or coffee shop with my journal and a book and just seeing where that takes me.

  6. Oh how much I can relate to this!! I remember sitting at a coffee shop last year, when life had hit absolute rock bottom, and suddenly feeling this strange sense of security. I've always loved coffee and cake with Mum, but since that day coffee by myself with a journal or some reading for uni or whatever else has become an at least once-weekly (usually more) ritual. Great to know I'm not the only one :) Rhi xx

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  7. Anonymous6/24/2012

    What a great story about you and coffee shops. I too find them as a safe haven - a place to meditate, unwind, and center myself!

  8. I am always envious of the people sitting in cafes with their books, journals, laptops.. i just don't have the luxury to do that


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