tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post7160489747130360000..comments2024-02-06T13:48:48.737-05:00Comments on Chantilly Songs: SEXY IS A STATE OF MINDchantillyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08376568382303168009noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-27529206967485712572014-09-05T11:48:14.202-04:002014-09-05T11:48:14.202-04:00Glad I found this post linked on Delightfully Tack...Glad I found this post linked on Delightfully Tacky! Your blog is wonderful.<br /><br />I can definitely relate to your snippets of childhood...it's bizarre to think back to a time when we didn't care really about what other people thought of how we looked and how that evolved into caring so much about how other people see us...kind of sad.<br /><br />I agree - if you are confident in who you are you are sexy. If you think you're sexy then you are! Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18000756493135964740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-7597113251531804422014-05-21T15:01:18.663-04:002014-05-21T15:01:18.663-04:00I love this post, and you are brilliant and beauti...I love this post, and you are brilliant and beautiful! Miss Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02824804006455085251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-56503734027785023152014-05-21T00:27:36.809-04:002014-05-21T00:27:36.809-04:00Oh man I love this post and love you so much!! did...Oh man I love this post and love you so much!! did you unfriend that guy? i only ask because I deactivated an old facebook and made a new one about a year ago and found it to liberating to only see (generally uplifting) posts from about my 20 closests friends. on the flip side though his comment promoted you to write such a wonderful post. i feel pretty fortunate that i was just totally cluless about all beauty standards until middle school and nobody every said anything to me dressing exclusively in basketball shorts and big t-shirts, but I definitely felt it later on, never feeling sexy in HS because I was never skinny like my friends. fortunately my now-husband had been complimenting me on things (including my curves) ever since we met and i've got to admit that i feel pretty sexy now and it's great haha. i've been having this sort of conversation with my mom a lot lately though, when i shared w/ her a picture i saw online that said "got a body? then you've got a beach body." and i think it's helping her to be more confident as well.Dus of Cuddly Cactihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08985494474547711132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-52481272212665819452014-05-18T11:27:48.381-04:002014-05-18T11:27:48.381-04:00Love this, lady! Your timeline really made me thin...Love this, lady! Your timeline really made me think about events in my own life that shaped the way I still think of myself. So interesting.lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12876850521478546774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-38985947813891942492014-05-16T22:09:27.580-04:002014-05-16T22:09:27.580-04:00Hey Anna!
This is a really thoughtful response. ...Hey Anna!<br /><br />This is a really thoughtful response. I personally do not like "word" clothing either, and would never wear it. To me, it's less about the actual clothing she was wearing though, and more about an overarching theme in our culture... the consensus that it's totes cool to make public commentary on women's bodies and/ or looks, and the harm it can cause. <br /><br />Example- last summer, there was a day when it was really hot outside, and I decided to put on a pair of (pretty short) shorts to run an errand. Big mistake. I was harassed every step of the way to the store, and the entire way back. <br /><br />At least 20 guys on the street *could not* keep their opinion about me in those shorts to themselves. The feedback was all "positive," but I couldn't have felt less so. Their words made me feel disgusted. I wanted to burn those shorts, and never wear anything but turtlenecks again. <br /><br />To me, it is the exact same thing- people (women AND men) just somehow feel an entitlement over women's physical being- praising it, or mocking it. It's not just a simple "criticism," but a history of these sorts of things happening day in and day out throughout a woman's life. I blew a gasket over this particular instance, and had to write this post :P<br /><br /><br />BUT. I agree that it's completely natural for people to have initial judgements and reactions towards things. I'm not saying people can't be entitled to their own preferences!<br /><br />I'm saying that I think that it's good for both society and individuals if people dig a little deeper, and understand their own intentions and thought processes with these sorts of things. And I'm also basically saying this:<br /><br />"I think if you feel good about yourself and you think you're attractive and sexy, these qualities will be apparent in how you carry yourself." We're so on the same page here! :)<br />chantillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08376568382303168009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-10855677263441106382014-05-16T20:03:24.315-04:002014-05-16T20:03:24.315-04:00Hey Dulce!
I'm totally not saying that the Fa...Hey Dulce!<br /><br />I'm totally not saying that the Facebook commenter shouldn't be free to have whatever thoughts he wants about the lady in the sweatpants. I'm not the thought police, and I'm not trying to say people can't have opinions. But what is the purpose of making a public statement about it? (Sadly, I don't think Facebook can be considered a personal space anymore...) Does it accomplish one positive thing?<br /><br />Also, it wasn't just him. There were 6-7 people participating in this post via comments, and 30+ who "liked the status. People who had never met or seen this woman, but still wanted to chime in about how gross she was. <br /><br />That's a group mindset, not just personal opinion. And I think it's a problem, and indicates a culture that is way too comfortable passing judgement on women's bodies... even women that they haven't even SEEN before.<br /><br />Thank you for participating in the conversation :)<br />chantillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08376568382303168009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-41997456697945060442014-05-13T13:51:20.420-04:002014-05-13T13:51:20.420-04:00Right on. I dunno. I think at the end of the day, ...Right on. I dunno. I think at the end of the day, people have to be prepared to take criticism for the words and phrases they choose to prominently display on their clothing. For example, I saw a Let Them Eat Cake sweater for sale at some exorbitant price at a well known on-line retailer and I was so appalled that someone who be proud to display those infamous words on her body. Of course, someone who takes the phrase literally and without any historical context, would find it wholly innocuous. <br /><br />People are judgmental by nature. So, it is completely natural for something like those sweatpants to elicit a range of emotional responses. Obviously that dude didn't particularly care for it and he wasn't all that eloquent in delineating his reasons hehe. Other people might have liked it. I, personally, wouldn't wear a garment with that print on it because of the range of judgments it could/would elicit. I'm so sorely misunderstood by people all the time (I don't know if it's because I'm black and they expect me to act and dress a certain way and then when I don't I just blow their minds hehe or what), but it's true. I have to overcome so many misconceptions based on how I look and act. Wearing pants like that would just compound the problem in my case. <br /><br />I think one can feel sexy and beautiful without actually wearing stuff that says "SEXY" and "BEAUTIFUL" on it, if that makes any sense? Otherwise, it gives the impression that the person is either really full of herself or just plain trying too hard. I think if you feel good about yourself and you think you're attractive and sexy, these qualities will be apparent in how you carry yourself. You'll be broadcasting it at such a level that people will notice without you having to spell it out. <br /><br />That's my two cents. Leave it to me to go against the grain, I guess. Haha. <3<br /><br /> - Anna<br /><br />www.melodicthriftychic.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11545150338448781718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-35410494546974798102014-05-13T08:23:21.503-04:002014-05-13T08:23:21.503-04:00Usually I would say that I totally agree with you,...Usually I would say that I totally agree with you, because like you said, being sexy is a state of mind, and is nobodies business how we dress. Still I think the FB guy, and here i'm not defending him, well it was his wall, and if he feels better criticizing someone who he only saw once, and didn't say a word in person, well, that's his problem. Probably the lady really look bad on sweatpants, but he didn't hurt her feelings making a nasty comment to her, he only wrote a bad comment in his personal place. Dulce Moonchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589574577547354117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-71317040263605950942014-05-12T17:12:14.165-04:002014-05-12T17:12:14.165-04:00HELL YES! I absolutely love this post! You're ...HELL YES! I absolutely love this post! You're so right! Who is he to say whether she can feel sexy or not in sweatpants? She's allowed to feel sexy in whatever she damn well wants to! We all feel sexy for different reasons and in different clothing. One woman might feel sexy in a tight dress, another in a loose dress, another might feel sexy in a white tee and jeans, or in sweatpants. Some of the things people say on Facebook make me cringe!<br />~SaraSara Strauss {Sincerely, Sara}https://www.blogger.com/profile/11167691407303970475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-33455735019787054352014-05-12T14:21:55.647-04:002014-05-12T14:21:55.647-04:00YES. JUST, YES.YES. JUST, YES.Imaginary Confetti Clubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10254941945158664703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-91545652678539451672014-05-12T13:51:38.559-04:002014-05-12T13:51:38.559-04:00I love this! And so true, beauty comes in all shap...I love this! And so true, beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Happy Monday!Southern Komfort Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07854370335299454949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-68043395194677573132014-05-12T12:46:08.357-04:002014-05-12T12:46:08.357-04:00A thumbs up post!
Monica, www.pear-shaped-gal.com...A thumbs up post!<br /><br />Monica, www.pear-shaped-gal.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03640704896355229623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2617624275110709548.post-88095520695947415672014-05-12T12:45:59.593-04:002014-05-12T12:45:59.593-04:00preeeeeeachpreeeeeeachJennifer Holmquisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16042606850848834027noreply@blogger.com